Death? You’re kidding me, right? Who else would like to talk about that? But, yes. There will be a time when we have to face it. Not unless we don’t know we’re already dead.
I started thinking about the possibility of being dead when I was around 4 or 5 years old. I was so afraid back then. Fear of death makes people feel helpless. From the death of Abel, the brother of Cain, up to that someone right at this moment breathing his last, death has been the number one enemy of mankind.
As a Bible believer, I know the fact that the dead are unconscious and know nothing at all. (Ecclesiastes 9:5,6) It’s just like falling into deep sleep with no dreams or whatsoever. (John 11:11-14) These truths make others feel somewhat relieved when they know their dead loved ones aren’t feeling the pain any longer. But still, others don’t want to talk about it. (For more info on my beliefs about death, please open this link)
Talking About Death is Talking About Life
When was the first time you heard the word “death”? How did you feel? How about the word “life”? Life has many worries, and death is one of them. The fear of losing our loved ones or being away from them makes us feel uncomfortable. Still, at sometime in the future, we need to face these painful changes in our lives.
Is Death Really Scary?
We can hear familiar statements like “You only live once,” and “Live life to the fullest.” In an article published online , it discusses things you can do to overcome the fear of dying. One of my favorite points from this article is the statement “Surround yourself with people that make you happy and vice versa. Your time will be well-spent – and well-remembered – when you share yourself with others.” (wikiHow – How to Overcome Fear of Death, Part 4, Point 2) Indeed, surrounding ourselves with people whom we can make happy will give us meaningful accomplishments. Genuine happiness comes from giving according to Jesus Christ. (Acts 20:35)
But the question remains: Is death really that scary?
Consider these quotes from different personalities.
“It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.”
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”
“Cowards die many times before their deaths; the valiant never taste of death but once.”
“Some people die at 25 and aren’t buried until 75.”
“Do not fear death so much but rather the inadequate life.”
As you might have noticed, the people who uttered these statements seem to agree that living a meaningful life will take away fear of death or assuage it. Dying with self-respect and dignity is better than living a hundred years in dishonesty, being greedy and power-hungry individual.
The Bronnie Ware’s Regrets of the Dying
Author and songwriter Bronnie Ware wrote in her blog about the common “Regrets of the Dying” in 2009. It made a great impact to many especially to those who were working too hard that they forget to spend enough time with their loved ones.
I have an ESL student who happens to be a branch manager of a well-known fast-food chain. One time, I mentioned to her about Ware’s article on the 5 common regrets of the dying. She pondered well on it and gave importance to spending enough time with her family. It made both of us happy with the results of that conversation we had.
Let’s Talk About Life
Living a healthy life doesn’t mean you don’t have to fear death at all. Having a morbid, irrational fear of death is not good, but a little bit of worrying about it is healthy. It will help you avoid things that may put yourself in danger. But worrying too much won’t help you any better. “So never be anxious about the next day, for the next day will have its own anxieties. Each day has enough of its own troubles.” (Matthew 6:34)
“Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere”
– Erma Bombeck
We need to enjoy the blessings we receive each day; be it food, shelter, a good night sleep, or being alive. Happiness comes from appreciating even the least important things we have. Find contentment in life. When you find it, hold on to it.
Breathe life, watch many sunsets, run, play like a child, decide like an old man, help others to know their Creator and do the same, be a blessing, inspire, motivate, forgive others and yourself, laugh more, and love more. In doing these, you will be loved and respected. Eventually, you are going to feel contentment in life. And that’s when you are living your life with a noble purpose.
1. How to Overcome Fear of Death – wikiHow-http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-the-Fear-of-Death
2. Marcus Aurelius-http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/marcusaure148732.html
3. Mark Twain-http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/m/marktwain104444.html?src=t_death
4. William Shakespeare-http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/w/williamsha104447.html?src=t_death
5. Benjamin Franklin-http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/b/benjaminfr129949.html?src=t_death
6. Bertolt Brecht-http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/b/bertoltbre382589.html?src=t_death
7. Bronnie Ware – Regrets of the dying-http://bronnieware.com/regrets-of-the-dying
8. Erma Bombeck-http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/140315-worry-is-like-a-rocking-chair-it-gives-you-something